April 2012

Defining My Style

While reading one of my favorite home design blogs today, I ran across a quiz from one of my favorite stores, Home Goods called Find Your Style.  I don’t know about you but I get a kick out of taking online quizzes and seeing how close they come to capturing who I am.  


This quiz was only ten questions but I thought it summed up not only my decorating style but also my style of entertaining and hospitality values.  In fact, the only things I don’t think it pegged were the suggested colors and design challenge. I’m very organized and the colors they suggested as my happy colors are definitely not ones I’m attracted to.  I don’t necessarily hate them but I couldn’t see using them in my home.


Here are my results:

To take the quiz, go to Find My Style Quiz. If you take it, be sure to come back and share your results.


Love y’all,

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A note of Thanks- Part II


There are many reasons to write a thank-you note. The people who receive your notes are sure to remember your kindness and think more highly of you.  A simple thank-you note can change the course of your life or the recipient’s life. 


Here are my top three reasons for sending thank-you notes:


1.  People feel appreciated
Gifts are should be given out of the kindness of one’s heart so while a big hurrah is not always wanted or warranted, it can serve to build relationships, show gratitude and ease someone’s mind.  I know the last suggestion seems off but think about this; if you send a gift to someone in the mail or leave it at a guest table and never receive a thank-you note or acknowledgement of the gift, you could be left wondering forever if the gift was received. A simple thank-you note sent in a timely manner can remedy the awkwardness of the sender needing to call and check on the gift as well as the inevitable embarrassment of the recipient receiving that call.


2.  Little things matter
Suppose you’re one of the top three candidates up for an amazing job opportunity.  Each of the three candidates look alike on paper; college degree, great work experience, cheerful disposition, etc.  After your interview, you drop a nicely written thank-you note in the mail to the CEO of the company who interviewed you and the other two candidates don’t.  Who do you think stands out the most?  As someone who has hired many employees over the years, I always appreciate a candidate who takes the time to sit down and send a follow-up thank-you note for my time and consideration.


Likewise, the person who gifted you or went out of their way to help you, would appreciate the time you took to craft a thoughtful note in response to their goodness.


3.  Getting mail rocks!
I have a confession- I love getting mail; I have ever since I was a child!  My husband and mother joke that I will go outside in the middle of the night or in a snowstorm to get the mail.  There’s just something exhilarating to me about receiving a letter addressed to me.   Now I must admit, I don’t necessarily like getting bills but whenever I see a card, especially a hand written note or card, I get excited and feel very special.  This person cared enough to take time out of their schedule and acknowledge me.  How special is that!
I have notes written to me over the years that I cherish and still keep to this day.  Some of them are very short and don’t say anything particularly overwhelming but I received them at such a crucial point in my life that I keep them to remind me of where I was and how far I’ve come.  


Remember I mentioned that a note can change someone’s life?  Let me give you a recent example:
Recently I received a very sweet and heartfelt card of thanks from another young mom I know.  She expressed thanks to me for doing some things that while I did them out of kindness, I didn’t think the acts were anything major.  In her note, the mom expressed to me how much my act meant to her and how grateful she was for my husband and I.  First of all, I was grateful to get the note.  Secondly, that note said to me that every little thing I do can affect somebody in a positive way, even when I don’t think it is.  It encouraged me to seek out ways to give and be a blessing to others.  I love knowing that little things I do can make a big difference.  Her note changed my outlook on life.  Before the note, I was pretty caught up in the daily grind.  I was only focused on doing what I needed to survive, not really thinking about others very much.  I know that’s not the right way to be but I’m being honest. Her note, helped me change my outlook.  For that I’m really grateful.


Has a thank-you note changed your life?  


Love y’all,

 

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The art of note writing- Part I





An essential part of any event is closing out the event by expressing gratitude to your guests for not only the gift they gave you but also for taking the time to attend your event.  With our busy schedules we all have choices on what we spend our time doing.  Acknowledging someone for choosing to spend time with you and giving you a gift, is an excellent way to show your appreciation for their time and thoughtfulness.


Thank-you notes came about through an evolution that started in China in the 15th Century.  They first appeared as visiting or calling cards.  Eventually calling cards became popular in France and spread into Europe in the 17th Century.  Calling cards were engraved with the caller’s name and address and were left by people wanting to expand their social circles at the homes of social or political importance.  


Ladies “called” in their carriages and most often left calling cards with the butler or household servant.   Eventually a set of customs grew around the practice of “calling” on someone. The presentation and design of a card indicated a great deal to the person receiving the card.  For example, a folded top-right corner meant congratulations and a folded lower-right corner expressed sympathy.


The use of calling cards grew in the United States after the Civil War.  American ladies established certain rules regarding the distribution of cards including how they were supposed to look and what trays they were presented on.


The practice of leaving and receiving calling cards eventually waned with the end of the servant class.  Today we follow a different code of etiquette but the one constant that remains is writing thank-you notes and other cards of congratulations, sympathy and announcements.


I find it fascinating to see how thank-you notes have evolved.  Imagine if we had to present our notes to a husband for his wife (since most of us don’t have butlers or servants!) on a silver tray!  I shudder to think of the notes I might miss from my husband using the tray as a coaster instead.


It’s also interesting to me to see the trend of calling cards return, although in a different capacity than they were originally used in Victorian times.  Many people use them today as a way to exchange numbers with new people they meet.  Retirees or college graduates are just two examples of people who can use them as a way of presenting themselves in a polished manner that’s not quite a business card.  Some moms even create calling cards for their kids to exchange on playdates! I see them as a unique way to express personality and style.


What about y’all?  Did you know the history of thank-you notes?  Do you use calling cards and send thank-you notes frequently?


Love y’all,

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